3. The Will to Change
The will to change : men, masculinity, and love (2004) ISBN: 978-0743456074
April 29, 2008 – xi-105
May 6, 2008 – 106-188
Table of Contents
Preface: About Men xi
1 Wanted: Men Who Love 1
2 Understanding Patriarchy 17
3 Being a Boy 35
4 Stopping Male Violence 55
5 Male Sexual Being 75
6 Work: What’s Love Got to Do with It? 91
7 Feminist Manhood 107
8 Popular Culture: Media Masculinity 125
9 Healing Male Spirit 135
10 Reclaiming Male Integrity 153
11 Loving Men 169
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REFERENCES
Preface
Phyllis Chesler, About Men. Barbara Deming.
1. Wanted: Men Who Love
Jan Waldron, In the Country of Men. George Weinberg, Why Men Won’t Commit: Getting what you Both Want without Playing Games. Comic Strip – Sylvia. Barbara Deming.
Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You?: Reconnecting Men and Women. John Bradshaw, Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth. Susan Faludi, Stiffed: The Betrayal of the American Man.
3. Being a Boy
Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson, Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. James Garbarino, Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We can Save Them. Christina Hoff Sommers, The War against Boys. Olga Silverstein, The Courage to Raise Good Men. Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You? Gary Zukav and Linda Francis, The Heart of the Soul. Bruce Shenitz (Ed.), The Man I Might Become: Gay Men Write about Their Fathers. James Saslow, “Daddy was a Hot Number”. Bob Vance, “Finding the Light and Keeping It in Front of Me.” Frank Pittman, Man Enough: Fathers, Sons, and the Search for Masculinity. Film – Life as a House. Donald Dutton, The Batterer. J. K. Rowling, Harry Potter.
4. Stopping Male Violence
Andrea Dworkin, Scapegoat. AMA, Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You? <–Chapter 5 – “The Thrid Ring: A Conspiracy of Silence.” Marti Tamm Loring, Emotional Abuse. TV Show – The Incredible Hulk. Dorothy Dinnerstein, The Mermaid and the Minotaur. Frank Pittman, Man Enough. M. Scott Peck. Erich Fromm. Kay Leigh Hagan, “A Good Man Is Hard to Bash.” Donald Dutton. Film – Saving Private Ryan. Film – Independence Day. Film – Men in Black. Film – Black Hawk Down. Film – Pearl Harbor. R. W. Connell, “Gender Politics of Men.”
5. Male Sexual Being
Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse. Eric Gutierrez, “Who He Was.” Michael S. Kimmel, “Fuel for Fantasy: The Ideological Construction of Male Lust.” Gary Zukav and Linda Francis, The Heart of the Soul. Steve Bearman, “Why Men are so Obsessed with Sex.” Robert Jensen, “Patriarchal Sex.” Lyric – Iggy Pop. Lyric – Mystikals. TV show – Sex in the City.
6. Work: What’s Love Got to Do with It?
Susan Faludi, Stiffed: The Betrayal of the American Man. Barbara Ehrenreich, The Hearts of Men. Victor Seidler, Rediscovering Masculinity. Kenneth Blanchard, One Minute Manager, The Power of Ethical Management. Susan Bordo. Film – Life as a House. Film – American Beauty. AA. Dean Ornish, Love and Survival. Gail Sheehy, Understanding Men’s Passages.
7. Feminist Manhood
Minnie Bruce Pratt. Robert Bly. Christine A. James, “Feminism and Masculinity.” Gary Zukav and Linda Francis, The Heart of the Soul. Olga Silverstein, The Courage to Raise Good Men. Robert Levant. Thoreau. John Gray, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Michael Silverstein, The Courage to Raise Good Men. John Stoltenberg, “Healing from Manhood.”
8. Popular Culture: Media Masculinity
The Male Machine. Men’s Liberation. The Liberated Man. The Limits of Masculinity. For Men against Sexism. Being a Man. White Hero, Black Beast. O. J. Simpson. TV Show – The Incredible Hulk. Barbara Ehrenreich, The Hearts of Men: American Dreams and the Flight from Commitment. TV Show – The Fugitive. Beat Generation. Generation X. Paul Hoch, White Hero, Black Beast. Film - Men in Black. Film – Independence Day. Film - The Matrix. gangsta rap. Colin Powell. PBS, Hillside Strangler. Film – Jagged Edge. The Analysand. Film – Good Will Hunting. Film – Monster’s Ball. Film – Igby Goes Down.
9. Healing Male Spirit
Riane Eisler, The Power of Partnership. David Winter. Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You? Wendell Berry, The Unsettling of America: Culture and Agriculture. Barbara Deming. John Sayles, Film – The Brother from Another Planet, Film – Sunshine State. Alice Walker, The Color Purple. Film – Antwone Fisher. Comic Strip – Sylvia. Terrence Real. Gary Zukav and Linda Francis, The Heart of the Soul. Film – Piano Teacher. James Hillman. Thomas Moore, Care for the Soul. Gary Zukav. His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Ethics for the New Millennium. Thich Nhat Hanh.
10. Reclaiming Male Integrity
John Bradshaw. Rabbi Harold Kushner, Living a Life That Matters. M. Scott Peck, Further along the Road Less Traveled. Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. Gary Zukav and Linda Francis, workaholism. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. Joseph Beam, “Brother to Brother: Words from the Heart.” Donald Dutton, chapter “Love and Rage.” James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time. Neale Lundgren, “The Night When Sleep Awoke.” George Edmond Smith, Walking Proud: Black Men Living beyond the Stereotypes. Henri Nouwen, “Celebrating Life.”
11. Loving Men
Shepard Bliss, “My War Story.” Barbara Ehrenreich, Blood Rites. Daniel Berrigan, Thich Nhat Hanh, The Raft Is Not the Shore. Thomas Moore. Wendell Berry. Zukav and Francis. Shere Hite, Women and Love: A Cultural Revolution In Progress, chapter “Loving Men at This Time in History.” Michael Kimmel. James Hillman, The Soul of Sex. Steve Bearman, “Why Men Are So Obsessed with Sex.” patior. Gary Zukav and Linda Francis. Frank Browning, A Queer Geography. Kay Leigh Hagan. Film – Antwone Fisher. Antwone Fisher, Poem – “Who Will Cry for the Little Boy?”
